Written By: Ryan Hesslau
We all remember that saying our parents would tell us, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” Being older, we look back at that, thinking how on occasion we would look at our parents with the childish smirk, not taking them seriously, being the youngsters we were. We all have judged, don’t try and say you haven’t. We are all guilty of it. It’s just a phase that comes into our lives that never seems to want to go away. Judging from elementary school to high school is quite the drastic change when you think about it. Judging in
elementary consisted of labeling the kid that was always answering the teacher’s questions, giving the teacher’s those compliments to make their days, and were the over achievers when it came to academics…..the “teacher’s pet” Remember them? Or the kid that told on everyone for everything, even if they weren’t part of the situation…Also known as the “tattle tails” See what I mean when I say judging starts early?
I was actually known as a tattle tale, I told on legit everyone! It was ridiculous. I’d see some kid take some other kid’s eraser, and there I was… “TEACHER, TEACHER, MATT’S TAKING SYDNEY’S ERASER!” It wouldn’t surprise me if the class hated me. The point I’m trying to make is that judging is something that starts young, and progressively gets worse as we get older. There’s no hiding it. I’m sure everyone has seen this picture on Facebook. Thi is completely true when you think about it. We tend to judge people for their outer appearance, such as the way they act, the way they dress, or the people they hang out with. That’s one problem I have with today’s society. We never take the few seconds to get to know the true side of someone that can potentially change your entire assumption of someone. Like I said, in high school, judging gets brought to the next level. I mean if a guy where’s something that doesn’t seem to be like the masculine type, he’s gay. If a girl is always with guys, she’s a slut. If a kid smells like smoke or dresses “stoner
like” he or she is a pothead, and if you go to church you’re a Jesus freak. See where I’m getting at? The list goes on about the judgments we make toward people. Heck, most of the times we don’t even realize we are doing it because it is such a casual and normal thing to do. But why? Why can’t we take a few seconds to get to know someone? Why can’t we welcome each other into our “social groups” regardless of the way they dress, act, or physically look? When we start rethinking about the possibility that someone is completely opposite of what we had thought originally, not only are relationships formed but you get the message in your head that, “hey, this kid isn’t anything like I thought.”
I’ve been in this situation before, just last summer actually. I met this kid on a mission trip, immediately keeping my distance because he was a big player football (perfect example of me judging) …From what it seems, football players are the guys everyone fears, which is completely understandable, trust me. The thing was after being partnered up for the week, we built an amazing friendship, he’s probably the funniest kid I’ve ever met, and he is also one of the reasons why I continued to go through with foreverU. Start reliving your life. Give chances! I don’t mean to sound depressing or anything, but it’s kind of true…Give someone a chance before it is too late. After you graduate and move on with your life, you may look back and say to yourself, “hey, you know what? I really wish I had given that kid a chance instead of avoiding him because the way he dressed.” Judgments are something that has always been around and probably always will. Those you judge are just being foreverTHEM. They aren’t
going to change that because of what you think of them, and never should. I leave you with this…Life is short as we all know it, so give everyone chances, because I can promise you…One day you will regret it. So the next time in class
you’re partnered up with the kid you want to avoid at all costs, think about their inner appearance and who they truly are, rather than the outer. Then guess what? When you form those positive relationships, equality is made…
What’s better than that?
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