Written By: Ryan Hesslau
We all can relate to the feeling of weakness when it comes to standing up for someone. We don’t want to become the target, we don’t want to embarrass ourselves, or we simply choose not to get involved. It’s reported that 6 out of 10 American youth witness bullying at least once a day, but don’t take action. That honestly doesn’t surprise me because of the fact that simply no one wants to get involved. I’ve been there and I still battle with it. The point I want to make clear is what it really means to stand up to a bully or for the victim. Standing up to a bully can be defined as obviously standing up to the bully and simply telling them to “grow up” or “back off” you follow me? I’ve always had a different perspective on standing up to the bully. I actually do it without even having to deal with the bully. We all see that bullying situation go on, with the gut feeling of wanting to jump in and protect the victim, but don’t have it in us to speak up. I tend to pull victims over to the side, whether you know them or not. Simply start a quick conversation, explain how you have their back and if they need anything, you will be there. Get their phone number, text them, be their lifeline! Those that suffer don’t usually have an individual to talk to or seek help from. That’s where you need to step in.
When the one suffering sees that they have someone who has their back, whether it’s 1 or 100 people, they tend to feel a little more stronger emotionally, realizing that they are not in this battle alone. They need you. They need someone to provide the hope they need in their life. That person is you. Quick tip for girls, if you see a bullying situation involving guys, speak up. I don’t know about you but I feel a guy gets intimidated when a girl voices her opinion in your face. Bystanders need to learn how to “Rethink! Relive! Revive!" Not only is that a solution for the bully, but as well as for the bystander. Rethink about how not taking a stand could cause more emotional damage on the victim. Relive, in a way that you’re rising up whether it’s standing up to the bully or pulling the victim to the side. Revive the victims’life. As I said earlier, they need you to be their lifeline and someone they can trust. In the end, when one individual rises, bystanders come together, the battle is won.
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