Written By: Timmy Smith
Everyone dislikes something about themselves, but hopefully not everything. Learning to love yourself is so much more empowering than analyzing your flaws. Every flaw presents you with a choice: you can try to change it, or accept it as part of you. That doesn’t mean that you should character flaws as excuses not to grow, however. Learning to tell yourself at close range that you love and accept yourself just the way you are can help you see how unnecessarily critical you’ve been of yourself. You’re so much more than a handful of flaws. Self-acceptance and self-improvement are not opposing forces. Ideally, learn to love who you are right now, and then from that amazing position, work to improve yourself. Only from a position of loving yourself can you contribute your talents to the world. When you’re happy from the inside out, you exude happiness and can better design your life.
There is nothing more powerful than a changed life. You can change your hair, your clothing, your relationships, your house, but if you don’t change your mindset the same experience will happen over and over again, because those are everything outwardly changed but nothing inwardly. If you want something out of life, if you want to change yourself, if there is a goal you want to reach, changing your behaviors and overcoming your habits is challenging and hard, but it is possible. Most people go through life never discovering what their talents are. The only thing that is going to make you happy, is to step up. Raise your standards and discover what you’re capable of. When you step into your fears and continue to push yourself to go on, something incredible happens. There is greatness in you, and you need to learn to tune out the critics outside and the critic inside.
Self-esteem is pivotal to deterring success in life and relationships. Those suffering from low self-esteem tend to struggle more to find success and happiness. They may see themselves as victims, and are more often victimized, emotionally and/or physically. They may abuse themselves via self-destructive behavior or negative addictions. They often suffer from dysfunctional relationships. Low self-esteem can be displayed by feeling unable to control or correct circumstances in one’s own life. Another common symptom is not valuing oneself, feeling unworthy or unlovable.
For those who suffer with low self-esteem, improving it is crucial to feeling empowered in vitally any aspect of their lives. The first step is typically to identify what triggered these internalized feelings, then proceed to awareness and understanding. Stomping out the irrational, limiting beliefs makes way for more logical ones. Low self-esteem need not be permeant. Correcting it can be an arduous process, but well worth the effort.
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