Written By: Ryan Hesslau
It can be hard to stand up for yourself. We tend to feel overpowered, insignificant, and useless in a bullying situation. The words we wish we would have had the courage to say don’t seem to bubble up until it’s too late., the damage is already done. Our initial reaction is to grin and bear it. However, there are few who’s initial reaction is to block what comes at them. The human reaction to oppression varies from person to person. There are a few tips on how to stand up for yourself in these situations.
Confidence is key. It’s something we attain with age, but confidence can also be instilled in your mind if you practice having a positive attitude, and good self-esteem. When it comes to standing up for yourself….Be bold and stand strong. I know how intimidating it can be if it’s an individual that may be physically larger than you or has the appearance of someone stronger. Its okay to listen to your instincts. I saw a picture the other day talking about listening to the little voice in your head. Just walk away if you feel someone telling you to walk away. Now I know your saying, “well then I just look like I’m afraid or a coward.” Yes that may be the case. But in the end it shows that you were mature enough to stand strong with your head up high and walk away from the situation. A friend of mine was struggling in this exact same situation. It always occurred in the classroom. The teacher actually went along with it because the last thought on his mind was what it had been doing to the student emotionally. Then one day he hit his breaking point and stood up and yelled at everyone in the classroom, telling them what they were truly doing to him. He said how emotionally screwed up he had gotten, turning to negative options to escape the pain, and how on top of the oppression he faced at school, he goes home to an abusive household. It took that moment to open up the eyes of the students to what they were doing to him. My friend had gained the confidence to speak up for himself.
When you do decide to stand up and say something, yes maybe the harassment will continue, but it will give you the true confidence to walk the halls with your head up high and not become intimidated to rise up. It’s probably one of the most difficult things you will have to face, but in the end, it WILL make you a stronger person. Just focus on the future rather than the present pain. When you walk across the stage to receive your high school diploma, when you think about it, you will never see those kids again. It’s almost like a new start for you. Don’t be ashamed to walk away and ignore the comments. Stand up when you feel weak. Sometimes the weak are called to lead the strong. One day they will regret what they did to you and wish they had formed a relationship with you. Do something incredible with your life. We all have a reason to be here no matter who you are. Maybe your reason is something bigger than you can imagine. Life’s just a journey of finding the reason you’re here. You’re going to hit your ups and downs, but in the end, the reason you discover is going to be incredible. You future is amazing. Stand strong. Stay bold. Speak up. Never back down. And don’t let what other people say affect your purpose here on this earth. This is your life. Take control, and watch as your life unfolds into a plan filled with purpose.
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